Dating

10 Signs Your Relationship Is Toxic For You

Most relationships start out healthy and happy, but if you’re starting to feel like something is off, yours may have turned toxic. Regardless of how much you may love your partner, here are some big indicators that your relationship has become seriously unhealthy.

  1. You feel like your worst self when you’re with your partner. Your partner should bring out the best in you, and if the opposite is happening instead, you need to end your relationship. If you’re a happy, kind person when you’re alone or out with friends but feel like you’re a ticking time bomb of rage when you’re with your partner, that’s not a healthy situation for anyone involved.
  2. You’re constantly weighing the pros and cons of staying together. In a happy relationship, you’ll know without a doubt that you should be with your partner. If you’re constantly wondering if you’d be better off single or with someone else, it’s probably because deep down, you know that this relationship isn’t good for either of you.
  3. You feel like you’ve “lost yourself.” It’s not a pleasant feeling to wake up one day and realize that you’re not happy with the person you see in the mirror. Toxic relationships can have a seriously negative impact on people over a long period of time, and if you miss the person you were when you were still single, it’s probably time to make yourself single again.
  4. You feel more anxious or depressed than you used to. Spending too much time with the wrong person can have a serious negative impact on your mental health. If you’re feeling stressed out or “flat” more often than you were before you entered your relationship, it’s probably your brain’s way of telling you that you’ll be better off without your partner in your life.
  5. There are more bad times than good. If you look back on the time you spend with your partner and realize that it’s been a long time since you had a truly great day together, why are you bothering to stay together? Relationships should make both people happy, and if yours is making you both miserable more often than not, you’re just wasting your life staying with someone who’s draining the joy from you.
  6. You fight regularly. Yes, even the happiest couples fight occasionally, but the key word there is “occasionally.” Having major arguments every day or every couple of days isn’t a sign of a healthy relationship. It’s one thing if you’re going through a single rough patch, but if these fights seem to happen for a variety of reasons (or even no reason at all), you’ll be a lot happier if you just end things with your partner.
  7. You’re only staying together because it’s comfortable. It’s hard to start anew when you’ve practically built a life with someone, but sometimes, it’s the best course of action. Being comfortable is necessary in a long-term relationship, but if it’s the only reason you’re still together, just rip off the proverbial band-aid and end it. You should actively love your partner, and if you can’t honestly say that you’d choose her again if given the option to start over, it’s time to move on to the next stage of your life without her.
  8. You feel controlling or controlled. Feeling like you have to keep tabs on your partner isn’t healthy, and if you don’t trust her or she doesn’t trust you, your relationship is just dying a slow, painful death. Even if the lack of trust in your relationship is warranted because of something one of you did to betray the other, no one should constantly be making “rules” for their partner or feel like they’re constantly walking on eggshells.
  9. You start to get violent urges. Even if you’d never actually lay your hands on your partner, feeling the desire to is a huge red flag indicating that you need to exit your relationship as soon as possible. If you have to restrain yourself from hitting or grabbing your partner when you two fight, chances are that one day, you’re going to snap and actually hurt her. Save both of you from a terrible future and just walk out now before things get really bad.
  10. You actively try to avoid your partner. Are you staying out late just so you don’t have to go home? Do you find excuses to avoid hanging out with your partner, or do you make sure that you two are in separate rooms when you’re both at home? That’s not love, and you know it. You should want to be with the person you’re dating, and if you’re not, you’ll be a lot happier if you’re single or with someone else.