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6 Signs That Masturbation Is Getting In The Way Of Your Sex Life

If you love to masturbate, you’re not alone — a study published in the Journal Of Sexual Medicine found that 27% of men between the ages of 30 and 39 masturbate once a week or a few times a month. But masturbation can get out of hand, if you’ll pardon the pun. If you do too much of it, you can easily get in the way of having a healthy sex life. This is the case if one of the following 6 masturbation points ring true for you.

  1. You hurt yourself.  Yes, masturbation can lead to injuries! These include chafing or Peyronie’s disease, which is when scar tissue builds up in the penis shaft from too much pressure during self-love. Ouch! If you have a hot date planned for this weekend but you’ve hurt your member, you’re not going to be able to perform in the sack if you’re in pain, which means masturbating can put your sex life on the ice for a while. Bummer.
  2. You think about it way too much. Although masturbation is obviously enjoyable, if you think about doing it all the time, it can interfere with the rest of your life. This is unhealthy and could point to addictive behavior that can cause problems in your romantic relationship. A prime example is if you’re watching more porn because of your masturbation activity. The two often go together and can kill the intimacy in your relationship. As pointed out by Psychology Today, research has found that watching too much porn leads to greater levels of depression and a decreased feeling of happiness in one’s life in general.
  3. You choose masturbation over sex. If you love masturbation to the point that you believe it’s better than sex with another human being, you’re masturbating way too much for your own good and totally zapping your chance of having sexual pleasure in your relationship. That sucks! There are also other consequences that can occur from this. A lack of interest in sex could make your partner feel dissatisfied in the sack too. Not a good foundation for a happy relationship at all!
  4. You use it to avoid emotional intimacy. If you masturbate a lot, as in a few times every day, you need to ask yourself why. Yes, you love doing it and it releases feel-good hormones that boost your mood, but that’s probably not the only thing that’s going on. A reason for your high masturbation activity could be that you’re using masturbation to fulfill your sexual needs, perhaps due to a desire to keep people at an emotional distance.  A reason for this could be because you’re afraid of commitment. The problem, then, isn’t really masturbation. That’s just a symptom of a deeper psychological issue.
  5. You struggle to get erections. Although masturbating can help you figure out what you like when it comes to sex and boost your arousal, it can also make it harder for you to achieve sexual pleasure with a partner. This is because if you masturbate too much, you could struggle to get erections when you’re with another person. Before you roll your eyes and scream, “Myth!”, let me explain. The issue here isn’t that you’re masturbating too much but rather that you have a mental block when it comes to getting erections for sex with a partner. Since you achieve erections just fine when you masturbate, clearly the issue is a psychological one, like having performance anxiety or insecurity, and could be why you’re masturbating more than having sex.
  6. You’d rather masturbate than be with your partner. If you’d rather please yourself daily than have sex with the person you’re currently dating, that’s a sign that masturbation is getting in the way of the health of your relationship. But it could also be a sign that you’re not happy in your relationship. Ask yourself why you’re masturbating so much even though you’re no longer a single guy. Is it due to a lack of interest in sex with your partner specifically, or is the sex good with her? If it’s the latter, then something else is going on with you. You might be addicted to masturbating, and it’s worth speaking to your doctor about that before you do any further damage to your relationship.