I know, I know. When it comes to our daily scroll through dating profiles, we KNOW our type when we see them. She might be just the right height, have long blonde locks, and looks sexy in glasses. She might be adventurous and filled with wanderlust, or successful with a degree from an Ivy League school. Whatever your “type” means to you, I’m going to need you to scratch it for a second and hear me out.
- This doesn’t mean you need to match with someone you’re not attracted to. Before you roll your eyes and close out this article, please understand that I’m not asking you to court someone who appalls you. Obviously, you’ll want to have some sort of attraction to them, but maybe it isn’t as obvious at first because you’ve always been fixated on your type. If you’ve always dated tall women, you may have missed out on how damn charming it is when a short girl balances on her tippy toes to reach a cereal bowl. It’s time to take off the blinders and find attraction in something new.
- Most people don’t end up marrying their type. A study done by the University of Western Ontario concluded that although most of us are focused on our “type,” the truth is that we probably won’t end up marrying them. Instead, the study found that people started dating someone they enjoyed spending time with, then their interests began to match the person they were dating. We’re all basically relationship chameleons.
- It’ll get you out of your comfort zone. Take a risk by dating outside of your comfort zone and you’ll realize just how freeing it is. You know exactly how to pick up your type because you’ve been doing it for years—the entirety of your dating career, in fact. Branching out to other personalities, cultures, or beliefs will challenge you, inspire you, and hey, you may even learn something new. You’ll find that you won’t bore easily when dating someone with refreshing opinions, passions, and hobbies.
- The novelty of it will be really sexy. Dating someone new is inherently sexy, but dating someone new who’s unlike anyone you’ve ever been with takes things up a notch. From the uniqueness of their lifestyle to the passion they have for things you’ve never even considered, you’ll be intrigued. You’ll encourage each other to try new things and open each other’s minds.
- Think of all the women you might be missing out on. Types are inherently limiting and the last thing we need in a cutthroat dating world is yet another boundary. If you eliminate 75% of the dating pool right off the bat, chances are that you’re not going to have a ton of success. Open your mind to the possibility that the short girl in the coffee shop reading up on physics might stir up some fascinating conversation. You might even start to realize how much attention you’re getting from women that you never considered in the past.
- Compatibility matters most. I’ll still be the first to say that sexual chemistry is important, but maybe it shouldn’t be the first thing we seek. Maybe our “type” should shift from someone physically attractive to someone that compliments you for exactly who you are. Superficial traits like height, perfect teeth, and hair color won’t matter in the long run. Do you realize how often most women change up their hair color?
- What have you got to lose? Seriously, what’s the worst that could happen? If you date a few women that are outside of your type and it ends miserably, you can always go back to the way things were. But, I can bet that won’t be the case. Twenty bucks says you’ll be happy you tried.
- Clearly, your “type” isn’t working. Have your past relationships with your “type” ended in flames? The definition of insanity is repeating the same behavior over and over again and expecting different results. So, if you’re sensing a trend with the women who fit into the mold of your type, maybe it’s time to make a change. News flash: love doesn’t have a type.
- You’ll learn something new about who and what you’re looking for. Sometimes part of the problem with our dating life is that we don’t know what the hell we’re even looking for in the first place. Changing up your dating trends might help you realize that compatibility matters most. You might begin to spot the difference between someone you know will be a fling and one who could be marriage material. You might realize that you’re happiest when you’re challenged. The possibilities are endless, but you won’t find them if you don’t step out of your comfort zone. So, are you ready? Go!