Life

Important Life Choices That Will Make You A Happier Man

It’s cliche but true to say that happiness is a product of our own decisions. If you’re trying to live your best life now and for the rest of your years, here’s what you need to do to make it happen.

  1. Talk about your feelings. There’s a toxic misconception out there that being emotionally open is “weak” or “girly.” But bottling up your feelings, both positive and negative, is only going to hurt you and the people around you. Whether you choose to confide in a trusted friend or a professional counselor, make sure you’re taking the time and effort to get your feelings off your chest. You’ll be surprised at how much your mood and relationships improve.
  2. Take care of your appearance. Wanting to like what you see when you look in the mirror isn’t shallow. Maintain your hair (on your head, face, and elsewhere), wear clothes that fit, and hit the gym if you think it would help. You don’t need to go all-out, and of course there are times when we all walk out of the house looking like a mess, but you’ll feel a lot better if you run into your ex at the supermarket if you know you look good.
  3. Have some kind of a savings account. Nothing puts you in a bad mood faster than realizing you only have $250 of the $500 in repairs you need for your car to pass inspection. Having a financial cushion can have a massive positive impact on your mental health. Even if you only put away a little bit after each paycheck, it adds up over time, and whether you end up needing that money or can put it towards your eventual retirement, it’ll put your mind at ease to simply know it’s there.
  4. Openly embrace the things you enjoy. When you were a teenager, you might’ve kept some of your “embarrassing” hobbies a secret. But honestly, as an adult, you should stop caring about what other people think about what brings you joy. If you’re into anime, have a passion for makeup, or just spend a lot of time lifting weights, be proud of it and find other like-minded people who like the same things you do.
  5. Find a good work/life balance. Yes, you need to make enough money to live comfortably, but working your years away is just going to stress you out and eventually make you look back with regret. It may take a while, but you should strive to find a middle ground between the time and effort you spend working and the time and effort you spend doing what you actually want to do.
  6. Look out for “future you.” You can enjoy the now while still making sure that you’ll be happy with your choices tomorrow, next year, and next decade. Even doing little things like packing your lunch the night before so it’s one less thing you have to worry about in the morning can make your life easier. However, you should keep bigger decisions in mind as well. Use the condom, study for that final instead of going out, and make time for the people you’ll want in your life years down the road.
  7. Seriously, cut back on the alcohol. Trim your waistline, save money, have more energy — the reasons to decrease your booze consumption go on and on. Even if you’re past your “party” stage, limiting your casual drinking can have a lot of positive effects on your life. There’s nothing wrong with kicking back with a couple beers after work, but decrease the quantity or frequency of your drinking by half and you’ll surprise yourself with just how much better you feel.
  8. Learn the basics of services you’d normally pay for. You don’t need to be a professional mechanic to learn how to change your oil, and learning the basics of things like vehicle maintenance and home repair can not only save you money but make you feel more accomplished as well. Plus, men who know how to handle themselves are more marketable in the dating scene—going out to dinner is nice, but a guy who can cook up a feast at home is way hotter.
  9. Don’t date people who negatively impact your life. Everyone knows not to stay friends with toxic people, but so many guys stay with the wrong partner because of “true love.” Sometimes, the person you started dating changes for the worse, and if you start to feel like your mental health or social life is suffering because of your significant other, it’s time to move on. Life is too short to spend with someone who brings you down, and that alone is perfectly acceptable justification for a breakup.
  10. Never stop trying to better yourself. You can be happy with who you are and still want to be even better. Complacency is dangerous, and lots of people fall into the trap of believing that what they’ve done is “enough.” Acknowledge your existing greatness but never stop pushing for more. Go out of your way to be kind to strangers, read more books, see more places, and be a better friend. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain by refusing to let your potential go to waste.