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Porn Makes Guys Unhappy—Here’s Why it May Be Time to Stop

Sex is awesome—I think that’s obvious. It fills, satisfies, and unites two people in a way that other activities just don’t. Porn, on the other hand, isn’t sex. It’s pictures of idealized sex that bear no resemblance to reality. Here are nine reasons can actually harm you more than help you and why it might be time to stop watching it.

  1. ACTUAL women become unattractive. There’s a lot that goes into sex: fantasy, fun, mess, people, expression, intimacy… I could go on. But porn is just pictures of women that are, more often than not, completely inaccurate. Eventually the fantasy that surrounds sex becomes just as fake as the pictures filling up the brain to the point that real women become unattractive. This sucks because actual women, with their stretch marks, warmth, and curves are ultimately more satisfying.
  2. You’ll last longer without it.  It’s not enough to have a big penis—women want connection, i.e. time and effort. If you want your lady to feel as good as you do and to keep coming back for more, you’re going to have to make it more than five minutes with her. Porn allows for instant gratification without any personal sacrifice. In other words, it’s way too easy. It requires zero challenge and ultimately equates to a one-sided boring sex life.
  3. Porn is like sex snack food. It tastes fantastic, it looks great, it feels good… but it makes you sick in the end. Eat too much snack food and you won’t be hungry enough to eat your whole dinner plate. Sex is the dinner plate, just in case you weren’t down with the whole analogy thing I was aiming for. Listen to what your mom taught you and stop snacking before dinner!
  4. Porn is imaginary. It’s made-up. The people in porn are people who aren’t actually enjoying themselves. The woman may not actually like what’s being done to her (gasp!), the guy may not actually be satisfied. Porn ultimately sets up expectations that just won’t happen in real life. When it comes to sex, it might be in your head that your partner will moan with delight if you just do this one thing, but in actuality, they’ll be disgusted. No fun.
  5. Real sex can become disappointing. It’s all about the real sex here, people. If the expectations for pleasure are set up for certain “activities” (seen in porn) that your partner may not be into (most likely not), then you end up being disappointed. Your partner may be disappointed as well because they may actually be in pain as a result of whatever it was that you thought would be awesome. Or maybe they’ll just be weirded out. Either way, both parties are disappointed with something that should be REALLY fantastic but just isn’t.
  6. Porn isn’t messy enough. One of the best things about sex is that it’s messy and exhausting. After some good ol’ sexing, nobody should be getting up, including you. Watching porn is just cheating yourself out of all the fun you could be having. For all you people who actually like sex, I say to get out there, make mistakes, and get messy!
  7. It lessens sensitivity. Enjoying sex with your lover person requires that you pay attention to what she wants so that whatever you’re doing, you’re doing together. Porn puts all kinds of weird stuff in the head, ideas that just float around in there waiting to be experienced. Except that the reality of all those weirdo ideas won’t be much of an experience if you can’t actually connect with the person that you’re doing them with. Pay attention to your partner. If you do that then everyone will have fun and be exhausted afterward. Getting exhausted is an activity that you can do over and over again without it getting old.
  8. Sex is awesome. Real sex = real people. Real exhaustion = mess, love, fun, exercise, action, connection, rolling around in the hay…whatever you want to call it. It doesn’t need a substitute to be interesting. Porn cheapens the whole activity, taking away its excitement. Porn just fills up space that is better filled by genuine experience.
  9. A lot of women think it’s gross. This is the real kick in the pants. Most women think porn is gross. They’re not interested. They recognize it for what it is, which is lame. Most women aren’t into watching random strangers do weird things in bed. It just doesn’t do it for them. They want the real deal. Their imaginations are usually filled with fantasies that require their partner to care about them, take time on them, and fulfill their needs. And women have serious long ignored needs. They recognize that when their partner expends all their energy on porn, they’ll have nothing left for the real deal. So if none of these other reasons strike a chord, this one should. Be a feminist and stop watching porn for the women.